I’m the one who will be there for you,  whether you need me or not.   I’m the one who has already thought about you by the time you awaken and will continue to think of you long after you fall asleep.  I think about how you’re going about your day,  wishing I was there to hold your hand to let everyone know how much I love you.   I’m the one who will stock my refrigerator with your favorite things.   I’m the one who will put my grocery cart,  as well as yours,  at the kiosk in the parking lot– and probably one or two others along the way….

The world is a beautiful place– even more so because you’re in it.   I wonder how many lucky souls get to see your smile or get to hear your voice– what a wonderful impact you make not only in my life, but everyone that cares to know you like I do.

The very tears you cry,  I have shed too.   As happy as you make me feel,  I can’t help but be sad when you’re melancholy or having a bad day.   What a joy it would be to cheer you up,  make you feel better,  help you realize that you’re truly amazing.   But I want you to know that just as much as I do.

Your intelligence is regal; your sense of humor tickles me; and the trust with your emotions that you bestow upon me is something I will always treasure and keep safe.   There isn’t another soul I would want to do this for.

Why?  Because it’s you.   Somehow,  you found me when I needed to be reminded that I, too,  was remarkably special.   If I had been told I was kind before,  now I am downright altruistic.    If people gravitated to me before,  I’m a big powered magnet.   If people tell me I have a great smile,  you are part of why it shines and  beams with such joy.

And yet,  you don’t know I’m alive…. well,  that’s not true.  You know I’m alive.  You’re just don’t wish to pay attention to me.   We haven’t met yet.   I’m everything that you want,  but afraid to accept.  You think so poorly of yourself,  you’d rather commiserate with fellows lower than you on the totem pole or the food chain.  You’re so wrapped up in the silence from them,  that the silence you give me,  breaks my heart.

“Silence is the best answer to someone who doesn’t value your words.”

I accept you for who you are.   I allow myself to be the subject of your abuse– the same abuse you have felt from others,  but never from me.  When you realize your mistakes,  it’ll be too late.  I am stronger than you give me credit for.   In order to be this strong,  I also must  know how vulnerable I can be.   I feel everything from despair to ecstacy,  and still I have time to be kind to a fellow human being and care for the needs of others, you, and as well as myself.

Who am I?  I am the amazing human being you let go.   I gave you every reason in the world to want me but it’s the same reasons that made you a coward and dismiss me.   I am a knight in shining armor.  I am a frightened little boy.  I am magnanimous and the life of the party.  I am insecure and a recluse.  I am the one who would never allow anyone, including yourself, to hurt you.  I am the man of your dreams.

Life is too short.   If you can’t realize how amazingly fantastic of a human being I am,  how I would rather die,  than hurt you….if you cannot recognize the worth I have in this world,  may God grant me someone who does and allow me to feel for them the same way.  Never looking back.

Who am I?  The answer to your prayers…. the one who wishes nothing but the best for you– even if that doesn’t include me.   I’m am more than you deserve,  yet you’re all that I want.  I’m happy with the company I keep,  whether I’m with you or alone.

Who am I?  I am the one who makes your eyes roll into the back is your head with a single kiss.  My beard, against your skin makes you quiver.  My body against yours makes you moan with delight.   We are one when we f*ck… we watch the sun set and we watch it rise with every action,  toy, drop of sweat,  spit,  and every other liquid we produce and share.  We were made for each other, looking forward to the next time,  and the next….

Who am I?  A man who wouldn’t trade lives with  a single soul,  because the very years,  months,  days,  and seconds I exist,  I love.  I love every part of life,  and I wish to share it with the world.   I can’t help but be happy no matter what.  So,  why are you afraid?  Your life is safe with mine.   I am a gift,  a treasure,  a necessity.  Every day you refrain from my love,  is a day lost—never to come back again.

Who am I?

I am strength.  I am joy.  I am talented.  I am funny. I am caring.  I am vulnerable.  I am devoted.  I am freedom. I am love.

I am yours.

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Some people like to call it, “calling someone out,”  I like to call it holding someone else accountable for their action.  If something is hurting me emotionally or even physically, I’m going to tell the other person not to do that in order for the other person to understand what that action does:  it hurts me, therefore, telling them, hopefully will insure they won’t make the same mistake again, and then all could be understood. It’s not a judgement; it’s not anything other than holding the other person accountable for their actions and their behavior. 

On the other hand, if they don’t express themselves to the other person, and they hold on to the anger, the bitterness,  the insurmountable injustice of what is being done to them, what do you think the outcome will be when an argument begins? Something that happened weeks ago will become the most tantamount aspect of the argument, when all along, it should have been discussed at the time that it happened. That’s how we avoid. That’s how we avoid conflict…It all depends on the delivery. It also depends on the manner that is expressed;  but wouldn’t it be nice if someone, let’s say, scares you, they get great satisfaction out of it but you abhor it. The best thing to do is to say, “I’m sorry but I don’t like being scared because…” anybody who is decent will understand and say,  “I’m sorry, I won’t ever do that again,” because it’s the other person’s wish and if we don’t respect people that we are in relationships with, we are not in relationships! We are trying to manipulate and control somebody else.

I had said earlier, people are mirrors and for some reason if a person doesn’t like your kindness, it’s because they lack kindness themselves.  What if somebody accused you, whether it be cheating, lying, or losing something of value?  The accuser most likely has cheated or is cheating.  The same goes with the liar.  Why would you think I’m lying?But the fact that they think that you are says that they’re capable of doing it themselves.  And it’s usually the things that we don’t like about ourselves, we’ll do them anyway so if anybody is accusing you of cheating that person should really deal with their own fidelity issues.

Bottom line, if something bothers you when you’re in a relationship with someone you should be able to communicate your feelings to the other person without any kind of judgment–without any kind of taking it personally, and through the art of communicating and  understanding, that’s how relationships grow. That’s how relationships become strong.

My mother and father were married for 65 years. If they broke up over an argument oh, I don’t think they would have made it past their honeymoon!  One of the best stories that I remember growing up, I remember my mother and father arguing and at one point my mother called my father stupid.  Now my father’s side of the family is Polish, therefore, anything that was relatable to a Polish joke,  a pollock was considered less than another human being or wasn’t smart enough, we would take offense. My father was so hurt mother’s accusation, he walked right up to her and, oh my goodness what’s going to happen, he took his forefinger put it right up to his face in between his face and hers, and said, “if I’m stupid, then why did I marry you?”  He turned around and walked away and my mother was left there with her mouth gaping open and realized what a hurtful thing she had said.  Now, my mother who the alpha, but she had to follow him around for a couple of days before he could let it go.  Ultimately, they both talked, respected each other’s boundaries, and they survived.  Thank goodness.  But if the arguing continues to plague and torture the two parties, one has two choices:  keep playing the game, or stop the game dead in its tracks.

Sometimes you have to pull yourself away from the table when love is no longer being served.

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I do find it sad and somewhat comical when people tell me that they are working on themselves but then when it comes time for them to simply engage, or empathize with someone else’s issue they have no time for it,  nor do they care. So what are you to do?

I caught someone in a lie recently.   But before I simply reacted, hemming and hawing, I took a step back,  and thought about it.  Why am I being lied to?  Why, while making plans not only does this person lie,  but he also makes demands about how the plans need to be carried out?  Now, even though I’m willing to engage, regardless, i wish to extend my kindness,  but when the other person is clearly self absorbed,  he would never understand anything that you would tell him.   And especially if the two are friends,  or even more so,  lovers,  the definition of kindness should be a given and it should never be questioned.   But then again,  when your thoughts are riddled with negativity,  the act of kindness can be observed as a threat.

If people can’t celebrate you for who you are,  then they need to go.   The toxic energy only weighs down your soul with such heaviness.   Along the same lines,  of these said haters,  they’ll make you question who you are,  why you’re doing what you do, and won’t meet you half way,  or any way. If you have to chase after them, they really don’t want to be caught.

If you have to question someone else’s kindness,  then you should question your own.  Yes,  there are those who will gladly manipulate you with kindness to get what they want.   If it’s deception,  or anything negative, make sure you have your proof.  One of the biggest issues we face today is people conjecture,  conclude without proof and then you have a falsely accused, and a jaded despondent. Life is short and if you spend all of your life trying to understand what other people are thinking or why they act the way they do, you’ll be wasting a lot of time. What other people think about you is none of your business, but when kindness is concerned, always give it, and don’t expect anything in return.  It will come back to you, and for the ones who can’t, where energy goes energy flows.

Be kind. Always.

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I can’t tell you how many have complimented me about my writing– that I should continue to write by writing a book, or create something.
Well, I’m keeping myself honest by doing this and if you’ll join me, I am certain,  that this will be great for all of us.

I never understood how people can blatantly hurt others without feeling horrific guilt for what they’ve done.  The feeling on the receiving end is so debilitating,  that why would I inflict that on anyone?  But, the reality is, people survive the way they can,  but I believe in this current and post Coronavirus world,  we still have a choice– and I choose happiness,  abundance,  and love…. love of self,  people,  animals,  and of life.

Listed below are seven tasks.   As part of this new momentum toward love and kindness, I ask that you pick a different one each day, and do it.   This is all a personal journey,  but as a group,  I’m asking that you share your experience with me– maybe your insight can unblock what’s holding many people back from achieving their own happiness, and love goals.
Please submit ideas for acts of kindness,  chances to make all of us better humans for living the life of integrity. And together,  the sky’s the limit!

Thank you for stopping by.  As spiritual beings having a human experience,  let’s raise our awareness,  and our consciousness, bring love to the foreground again.  We’re worth it and deserve a better future in this lifetime when we don’t know what’s proven to happen afterwards.  Do it for yourself,  and for your fellow man.

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